Whining about my braces to Mom and sister (who, as always, suddenly show up at my bedroom door) and when they say my jaw's moved forward I, without thinking, say "That fucking sucks." They ask for clarification, I go "you know..." And they're like "Oh no, not like that!" but then Mom also says "You're driving me insane" BUT then we both somehow pretend again that this exchange didn't happen. For context, she's been deadnaming me again. This is unsustainable...

"You're driving me insane" is what really drives me up the wall. I've been so incredibly quiet and unduly conscientious about my gender that I literally slipped back into using my dead name at home. If this is too much for you, what isn't??? Earnest selfishness may be the road to take at this rate, I almost feel... ughh!!

@FragileVal you are completely justified in demanding your identity be recognized. That is not selfishness. They just want to live without dealing with your transness and will make you feel terrible if that's what it takes.