re: what's been going on with me and my folks
@GoodNewsGreyShoes This is NOT going to sound good.
It's not all altruism - I haven't cut contact because at some point I might need money, my Dad has financially helped me in the past, and I don't see any other avenue to getting a house other than inheriting theirs.
They're definitely where I got the bad habit of self-isolating. Like, my Dad has friends from his old workplace, but pretty much everyone they know are people they went outside to see - they don't have anyone else over as far as I know. I think a lot of my parents snapping at each other is stuff people outside my family don't get to see.
I really wish my Mom's health would turn better but that seems unlikely, and I have no idea how we're going to keep doing this.
what's been going on with me and my folks
I originally moved up here partway to be around in case my parents needed help with health stuff.
What actually happened with my parents' health was my Mom's mobility finally really went so that she's mostly housebound, and a lot of her other health has been in decline since. My Dad was taking a break from work, but became a full time caretaker. There's not much I physically do to help, but I'm basically there regularly so my Mom feels wanted and valued (mobility issues mean there's little chance of meeting with them anywhere else), and so my Dad has someone else to talk to, and another excuse to take a break from being at home.
Neither of my parents had been easy to be around before and now it's worse. Part of why this is such hard going is this setup (get Dad out of the house, let him vent, make sure I'm around Mom for a bit) means visits are always 7-10 hours, plus time to get there, and trying to get back to emotional equilibrium afterwards usually is a few more hours, so it's basically an all day thing.
@GoodNewsGreyShoes Thank you so much! *wags*
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