@Felthry TBH when I started with my gender therapist I opened with "Growing up I didn't really have a gender. My gender was geek." At the time I saw that as unprocessed dysphoria, and it led to a mostly-binary transition (which was legit great for me). It was also about five years before I figured out I was #ActuallyAutistic. I've since found the terms autigender and gendervague, and while they're not identities for me per se, I love them as a descriptors.
// @Motodrachen