Re: https://witches.town/users/SoniEx2/updates/469354

I don't feel like my parts are wrong "because folks insists they are" and the implications there is one of the most disgusting takes I've heard in a while. It's absolutely insulting to hear someone insist that all of the pain I'VE felt would just go away if people "stopped telling me that my body is wrong".

This is a prime example of like

hey,
if this is your lived experience and that's how you feel about yourself that's like… fine. But don't start assuming that this is how everyone experiences things, else you say insultingly generalized things based on your own biased experience that makes me snarly as fuck.

it's one thing to go "hey this is how my dysphoria works and this is how I've conceptualized it" and another to go "dysphoria is this definition and I am now implying that folks who feel dysphoria must be feeling it for these reasons [only], and folks who fall outside this definition are wrong."

Just ugh

@Oneironott I admit, I read their take and I think I get what they're saying, but it's a far cry from "this is my mental model" to "this is a universal maxim."

@literorrery that ambiguity, then, is a problem. I guess it depends if you take that post inherently as this as being their personal, subjective view or not. Generally, when someone is talking about what "dysphoria is", over what it is "to them" tends to strike me as them thinking about more than just their own personal experience

@literorrery either way I guess I don't know what they meant by it, but I can extrapolate that enough folks boosting it probably meant it as true in their own experiences

@literorrery it still draws out my inevitable "ugh, is this what they think I'm experiencing because this could not be not wrong" worries

Language it tough

@Oneironott As Depeche Mode said, "[Words] can only do harm." I see the pain and upset you're feeling, at least. Both at the dysphoria and the post.