@daylight @monorail I think you're misunderstanding what this is meant to say. Some people, us included, have difficulty with over-apologizing, and it feeds back on itself making us feel bad for doing relatively innocuous things. If instead we thank someone for putting up with us, it recontextualizes the whole thing in a way that doesn't set off ingrained self-loathing.

That could be written in a way that doesn't sound so much like an order, though.

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**Gabs, doggy dog** @daylight@sleeping.town · Mar 12, 2019, 13:05

**Gabs, doggy dog** @daylight@sleeping.town · Mar 12, 2019, 13:05

Mar 12, 2019, 13:05

Gabs, doggy dog @daylight@sleeping.town

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@Rosemary @monorail ahhh yeah i was aldkfjg sorry early morning

**mixed berry social anxiety disorder 🍓** @monorail@glaceon.social · Mar 12, 2019, 13:05

**mixed berry social anxiety disorder 🍓** @monorail@glaceon.social · Mar 12, 2019, 13:05

Mar 12, 2019, 13:05

mixed berry social anxiety disorder 🍓 @monorail@glaceon.social

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@Rosemary @daylight if i don't have ingrained self-loathing what DO i have

**Rosemary** @Rosemary@awoo.space · Mar 12, 2019, 13:06

**Rosemary** @Rosemary@awoo.space · Mar 12, 2019, 13:06

Mar 12, 2019, 13:06

Rosemary @Rosemary@awoo.space

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@monorail @daylight Well, yours isn't tied to overapologizing at least, if that doesn't help you. Different people need different solutions.

**mixed berry social anxiety disorder 🍓** @monorail@glaceon.social · Mar 12, 2019, 13:07

**mixed berry social anxiety disorder 🍓** @monorail@glaceon.social · Mar 12, 2019, 13:07

Mar 12, 2019, 13:07

mixed berry social anxiety disorder 🍓 @monorail@glaceon.social

re: subtoot technically

@Rosemary @daylight it's not that it doesn't help

it probably would

but like, if it's deserved then why help it

/that's/ what my point is

**Rosemary** @Rosemary@awoo.space · Mar 12, 2019, 13:10

**Rosemary** @Rosemary@awoo.space · Mar 12, 2019, 13:10

Mar 12, 2019, 13:10

Rosemary @Rosemary@awoo.space

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@monorail @daylight That's the point at which you probably need a therapist; the suggestion to apologize less is to help more mild cases in general, I think.

I don't think it's deserved, by the way, for what it's worth.

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