"stop apologizing, start thanking" alternatively i can acknowledge when i fucked up?

"not apologizing" isn't going to stop me from feeling guilty about talking about shit no one cares about or w/e

@monorail that sukes

@daylight yeah i should stop doing it

and when i apologize for it i'm saying "oops I know I shouldn't do that"

@monorail no the opinion of "never apologize," though i misread it as "stop apologizing and stop thanking"

@daylight it's not like "don't apologize ever"

here i'll just give you the context

@monorail ahhhh

@monorail still dont like it, dont like policing how people talk

@daylight @monorail I think you're misunderstanding what this is meant to say. Some people, us included, have difficulty with over-apologizing, and it feeds back on itself making us feel bad for doing relatively innocuous things. If instead we thank someone for putting up with us, it recontextualizes the whole thing in a way that doesn't set off ingrained self-loathing.

That could be written in a way that doesn't sound so much like an order, though.

@Rosemary @daylight if i don't have ingrained self-loathing what DO i have

@monorail @daylight Well, yours isn't tied to overapologizing at least, if that doesn't help you. Different people need different solutions.