Thought I'd ask again and try using some tags this time: Are there any other #plural or #multiple systems out there who aren't particularly spiritual, who might be interested in getting to know us?
We don't have anything against spirituality, it's just not something that either of us can really relate to. I feel a little isolated, because there aren't many systems out there who, like us, aren't deeply spiritual.
@Rosemary Not too much stress, just us trying to figure things out and try our best not to infringe on each other.
As far as other aspects of life, it's honestly sort of been a stress reliever? That we're not alone, and that I'm not the only one who has to take action.
I mean we've always had issues with things like socializing but we kinda attribute that to all of us trying to come up with what to say and utterly failing at that. (We're a little closer to a median system maybe? But still)
@korosarum We're probably some sort of median system too; I'm not too sure.
One of the things that I'm worried about is one particular person we think might be in that discord, who Felthry has a complicated history with and I don't think I'd be comfortable around because of that.
@korosarum There's only two of us, so it's not that hard for us to have a consensus. We typically make decisions from just the person who's fronting at the moment, and there hasn't been a problem with that yet. I'd probably consult Felthry, and I would like to think the other way around as well, for any major decisions, but none have come up yet.
@Rosemary There are 8 of us, so it gets a little... intimidating sometimes?. Not all of us are always "present", so it's not always fully consensus but we try to keep each other in mind.
@korosarum The more the merrier, yes?
I'm not sure if I'm always present. There've been extended periods where Felthry (previously Xolroc) was the only one around, but I think it was more that it was suppressing me unconsciously, out of (somewhat ironically) a fear of losing me again. There's a whole history to our system that I might tell you sometime, if you're interested, but I don't want to just unload bittersweet memories on you.
@Rosemary Definitely! Both to the "more the merrier" and to eventually hearing the history of your system. We have our own, but we don't really wanna just dump all of that on you.
@korosarum Yeah, I don't think talking about your less-than-pleasant history is the best thing to do when first meeting someone. It's nice to meet you, by the way!
@Rosemary It's great to meet you too! Sorry for the late response.
@Rosemary We dunno if we're median or not. For the most part, I'm the only one who actually fronts, but one of us used to front before we decided to transition.
But we're very clearly all individuals, and we all try and make decisions by consensus. Which adds to the complication in social situations, as we said.