Friendship question
I have a friend I've known for about 13 years. She's very hit or miss as a friend; I won't hear from her from six months, but she'll be there for me in an emotional crisis.
When we're hanging out she's attentive and kind to me, but then I won't hear from her for weeks. She isn't reliable and it's becoming a problem. I want to stay friends, but I can't help but feel like I put a lot more energy into this friendship than I get back from it.
What would you recommend I do?
Friendship question
@Sparrow I'm pretty sure I've been this friend...
What would your friendship look like if you just started more closely matching the level of energy she's putting in? Is that something that seems like it might be more sustainable for you?
Friendship question
That's what I've been trying to do, for the most part. But I worry if I don't make an effort to contact her, then she just won't contact me.
I guess at this point it's a matter of accepting that it's okay if that happens. If it's too much work for her to contact me, then maybe the friendship isn't worth it to continue. That does make me sad though.
