I think it's more likely he just has a poor vocabulary and limited understanding about the politics of hairstyle and identity. He has come around in a lot of ways over this past decade. It's just irritating that it's taking him so long.
Hahaha, that's absolutely true and I like it a lot.
@Sparrow 😔 if you're lucky he does and just has a shit vocabulary and experience. If you're not he's just lacking all of it. Ughhhhh.
I hope you're on the lucky side, anyway. FWIW, Mallory Ortberg says aggressively changing (or let's say refusing to change) your hair every time you want to upset your family is Queer Culture. ✊️