Can someone please tell me how to make friends as an adult?
It feels a lot more challenging than it should be.
@Sparrow
My two main tactics:
- I go on dates while making it clear upfront that I'm not looking for A Partner. A surprising number of my friends are people I've met through Tinder, OKC, and FL.
- I schedule a weekly brunch at an accessible diner. I invite friends and they invite their friends - we've been as small as two and as large as 12. I go with the diner because it's basically no work for me, there's always seating, and it's cheap.
Interesting! Yeah, I've met some friends thru dating websites too, but they're typically the people I get along with, but can't see dating. At this point I'm intentionally single and planning to be for a while. Are there really ppl on those dating websites just interested in friends?
I like that. I'm hoping to host casual game nights from my apartment soon, but it's a second floor so accessibility could be an issue. I like the diner idea and may incorporate that too.
@Sparrow
Well no - everyone I've met on a dating site has friends+more in mind. But if there's no chemistry I've become quite adept at keeping them as friends. Same with people I have dated - keep them as friends, and their new partners too.
This is all more mental energy than game night.
*Nods* That sounds like the sort of thing I'd like to start looking for in 6 months or so. At some point I want to try out a "solo poly" situation and that might be a good time to try a dating website, for friends and otherwise.
What is more mental energy than game night? Just talking about friend-finding strategies?
@Sparrow
I meant that dating-to-find-friends is more mental energy than game night. For me, at least. I enjoy it, but it's taxing.
Oh yeah, totally. Which is why I kinda figure if I do end up looking for friends that way, I'll do it when I'm also actively dating.
In the meantime, game nights and other activity groups seem like they'll be a little easier.
