I just don't know how to argue with someone that you should care about people, and if you truly care about people, you listen to them.
That's nto to say "listen" as in "follow what they tell you", but like, "This is the pain I go through, I don't think you understand, this is my situation, this is my *life*."
So many are willing to say "Oh, I had a small experience I can say was like yours" Like, "I felt bad once, you just get over it" to someone with chronic depression. How do you even respond? It's like, "I appreciate that you felt bad, and I'm sure that was hard for you, but this is *REALLY* hard for me, and I don't have the mental energy to argue for you understanding that, I'm actually a little desperate for self care and this is my free time."
@Ulfra_Wolfe Man, I struggled with that crowd -- and my internal copies of them -- for so fucking long before I finally broke down, did the research, and made the scientific case to myself once and for all that they're full of shit. It was totally worth the trouble and I highly recommend the process, because it feels GREAT to see these people run their mouths off and finally feel nothing but the urge to shake my head. *hug*
@zebratron2084 Awww. *Hugs back!*
I'm actually really interested in being able to do that, really. I lack willpower, though, eventually my wrath takes over, Snarl comes out, and I'm just like "Oh my gosh, you are either VERY dense and I just don't know how to get through that density, or you're being deliberately disingenuous for some reason I can't discern!"
@zebratron2084 The worst part is when I get stuck in that cycle and then start to treat people I can legit trust that way, and then I hurt people that never deserved it.
