re:// on this subject // accountability
@artemis@vulpine.club ive had that happen yeah. really ive always reasoned its other ppls imperative to choose who they interact with, but blocking someone for something they did like ages ago is usually a cause for raising an eyebrow
ive always figured its just a petty show of power over someones ability to communicate with u, like its not accountability its just petty
on this subject // accountability
@artemis@vulpine.club for me its very much a matter of accountability.. like, i had this sitch happen a while back.
a system joined a discord i was on and got upset about something and acted out, they had to be removed and later i had to explain that coming into a server is like inviting an entire friend group who share one account
like while one of them did a bad thing (and i mean, this was pretty edge-case - this headmate's response distressed multiple people who were just having a friendly conversation), i would expect that the group by association should be held accountable for it.
and that's really hard to say coming from me as someone who's had headmates do stupid shit in the past, but the whole is connected by the one, and if the one chooses to do something that's *way* out of line and they both choose not to stop when asked *and* no other headmate stops to intervene...
you can see what's going on with my reasoning process here. the whole must be held liable for the actions of one. like bullets in the same gun, we're all fired from the same trigger, and that's something i'm still coming to grips with even as i start to solidify as a system
@zauberin helo :]
little heavy pop but i feel like people tend towards minimising certain things through bringing up how bad they have it
and i mean i get it, and sometimes that can be fantastic - talking to someone and relating your experiences can really help, especially for neurodivergent folk! - but i'm talking explicitly about the use of such things as a minimiser and an invalidator
i feel like we should acknowledge that suffering is universal and that we can lighten the load through kindness and empathy
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