katt, migrating 🌟 🌈 @starkatt@awoo.space

(Usual approach that seems to work pretty well: show enthusiasm and not wryness, find something specific to compliment.)

Useful skills learned through spending time hanging out in queer spaces online: how to compliment sexy photos of friends without being creepy.

@forestservice Basically yeah. "This is not even my final form" is always already true.

@forestservice I increasingly believe "made up" is a fake idea when it comes to identity stuff.

@forestservice If you roll back later, that's okay. What you feel now is still important and valid. Future You gets to make their own choices about what's right, but right now you work with the information Current You has and live based on that.

@nire@witches.town pages randomly 404ing including the homepage.

@benhamill@witches.town sarcastic and exactly like reading someone as an egg but for being plural, yeah :)

@benhamill@witches.town "read us as plural despite us not having explicitly acknowledged it ourselves"

@indi That does make sense, and I didn't mean to suggest that they are just in your head. More saying, if someone experienced similar subjective experiences as you but considered them purely internal because those are the narratives they expect, that could be valid (whatever that means, I'm not actually sure) also? I feel like I'm running into that weird "more than one thing can be true, even -- and sometimes especially -- contradictory things" territory.

@indi (related to conversations with @KawaSeadrake and @Oneironott )
I think i's complicated? Basically, like I said, there's a lot of subjective experiences that have a lot of commonality -- but also important differences -- and how they're interpreted varies widely. As long as a model resonates & is respectful to everyone involved, more than one can be valid? I dunno how important delineations like "are or are not plural" are in the end, though they can be useful starting points.

(please tell me I'm not the first person to have made that joke)

I'm also of the opinion that this spectrum of​ internal experiences is /vastly/ more common than almost anyone acknowledges, and that cultural models and narratives play a large part in how it's understood and expressed a lot of the time. Mental metaphors play a huge part in how we understand our experiences, and it's easy for people to dismiss or ignore feelings they don't have a social context for.

Programming note: I'm putting plural stuff behind CWs not because I think it necessarily needs a content warning, but because I'm still kinda shy about it.

Have I mentioned that two of my partners clocked me so hard they were apparently referring to us as "noted singlet Katt Lastname" behind our back? :D

Hecka cute but really tired.