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when i see shit talking about like "girls are so good in X way" or "girls own Y topic" or "im gay for girls" or some shit, i never feel like im a part of "girls". it feels fake, like i'm just pretending, just putting on the airs and pronouns of something i'm not, claiming context i have no right to inherit
same when it's "enbies" instead, incidentally. and i don't want to be a boy. so i'm left with nothing. (no, not even "agender" feels right)
@typhlosion typhs are so good
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@typhlosion urf. That's a rough spot to be in 
For what it's worth, language around this stuff feels like it's particularly prickly, and in spite of that I think you're valid as heck
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@typhlosion Oh, that sounds very similar to the way I was...some months ago?
I'm not sure how I changed from it, I didn't realise it was happening, but I suspect it's partly figuring out which group of men people are referring to (they almost always have a group in mind) and finding how you differ from that group. I don't know if that'd help, but...
Conversely it's also why I dislike sweeping statements like that. There's often people associating themselves like this. :/
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conversely, when someone talks about men in the abstract doing whatever kind of thing that's oppressive or appropriative or abusive, *that's* the label i respond to. i'm party to the abuses of men, my mind says; i'm guilty of the internalized prejudice that men have; is it any fucking wonder i don't ever feel valid