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I once had a (former) friend tell me that he thought having a dick was what determined if you were a guy or not.

"I know plenty of girls with dicks," I pointed out.

"Oh, sure, a girl can have a dick. But it's *having one* that determines if you're a guy. You can't have a vagina and be a guy."

And intellectually I know he's wrong but sometimes I get inside my own head and think this way, and it makes me feel like I can't ever be a guy without one.

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Anyway, will someone please remind me that it's okay to be a person who doesn't have a dick? And that I'm still possibly attractive without one?

I'm not 100% guy (I consider myself to be 2/3 male, 1/3 female) but even so.

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@Sparrow
It's totally good to not have a dick!
Dicks don't make you a guyish person!

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@catoutofbed

No, they definitely don't. I've known plenty of girls with totally girly dicks, fwiw!

But yeah. Totally possible to be a guyish person without one as well.

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@Sparrow
Sorry if guyish wasn't quite the right word

You're valid no matter your body and gender configuration!

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@Skirmisher

Thank you, I appreciate this. I'm also entertained by the way you phrased it. :P 💚​

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@erinbee

Waaaaaa :'DD

You managed to make me feel comfy and validated and then I got to "elfbird" and felt even ~more~ valid, gosh~~

Thanks Erin~ 💙​ You're a good :3

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@Sparrow not having a dick is 100% good, and some of my fav ppl in this universe are smoking hot without one imho (and i don’t rlly make friends with cis ppl)

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@pan

Thank you <3

(And same, outside of some older friends and acquaintances from work)

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@Sparrow you get to be a guy even if you feel you are only 2/3 a guy even if you don't have the junk for it

People do not get to define you, you get to own that. It's 2018 and societal gender norms are only used as a societal tool of oppression imo

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@Sparrow I a couple of folks who didn't feel comfortable identifying with masculine pronouns _until_ they didn't have a dick.

You are valid, your genitals don't define you (unless you want them to). ♥️

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@mawr

Wait, really? Interesting! That's cool to know.

And thank you for the reminder. 💚

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