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I once had a (former) friend tell me that he thought having a dick was what determined if you were a guy or not.
"I know plenty of girls with dicks," I pointed out.
"Oh, sure, a girl can have a dick. But it's *having one* that determines if you're a guy. You can't have a vagina and be a guy."
And intellectually I know he's wrong but sometimes I get inside my own head and think this way, and it makes me feel like I can't ever be a guy without one.
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trans girls sometimes worry this too... it's sometimes difficult to feel validated in our own identity.
I know guys who don't have dicks and I promise you it's not what defines being a guy.
Now I'm curious if you have another name in mind for yourself. I think I recall you saying one but not certain.
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You're welcome to come join ##transspace on freenode IRC. Dante lives here in Austin and has a decent perspective
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That might be good!
I've liked every Dante I've ever met, fwiw.
I don't have IRC and never used it much when I did, but *shrug* maybe I'll reinstall one of these days.
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I tend to like it because you can jump into extended conversations or make your own or just throw a quip out.
So much less busy because all text.
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@ThatDamnCat
*Nods* I believe you.
Sometimes I think I should make a few more trans masc friends just so I have people to commiserate with about this & remind me about how guyish someone with my approximate genital configuration can be.
Sparrow is still good. I'm flirting with the idea of plurality (Toby/Danika seem to be my main fronts, with Spencer as my "where all the sex and violence I couldn't let myself feel went")