subtoot about serial harasser who can't read this (--)
Honey, you can cry about being stifled by "civility culture" all you want, but it's not going to change the fact you -keep- viciously attacking people over the smallest, most insignificant shit imaginable, and people have been telling you to knock this nonsense off for literal years now.
You're in your fucking forties. Act the part. That or do everyone a favor and leave the fediverse already like you keep saying you will.
re: oh boy, the fucker is stalking me now, rape mention re: subtoot about serial harasser who can't read this (--)
@Thaminga Yup. Every time I tried to pull away, they guilt-tripped and gaslit the fuck out of me in ways that I am very vulnerable to. And I kept convincing myself that I was the bad one for having issues.
I was far kinder to this person than they ever deserved, in the hopes they could somehow be brought back from the brink if someone showed them a little understanding—and, to be honest, because I knew what a cavalcade of guilt and complaint I'd get if I cut them off—or even so much as mentioned my concerns about their behavior.
And I got stabbed good and hard in the back for it, because I had the nerve to finally voice my concerns about them, and because I had the nerve to speak up in defense of what I created when they decided to demonize it. Which I deserved, because I really should have just gotten the full story from the people they'd hurt and chucked them into the sun.
I wasn't even involved. I basically got told in no uncertain terms that they didn't care that I was collateral damage... and they've since had the fucking gall to act like it was unreasonable of *me* not to want to speak to them again.
I am absolutely mind-blown at how they can still be casting themselves as a victim in all this, but it sure as fuck explains a lot of things in the past. No fucking comprehension or concern for other people's boundaries at all.
So yeah, add me to the "tell them to get the fuck out of here" list.