I'm fat, and that isn't going away any time soon. Diets, exercise, they didn't work for me. I won't tell anyone how to live their life. But I'll say this: Accepting that you're fat is hard. I struggle with it a lot. But it's been a lot LESS hard than wondering what was wrong with me, trying to fight against biology and failing.
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@BigFatFae even when i was at 180 pounds (I'm 6'0") I still felt fat even though when I wasn't considering my body I felt a lot better
But everyone started telling me "oh my god you look SICKLY" all the goddamn time.
so now i'm back up to 205 because then people won't comment on my body all the time
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@BigFatFae tbf i didn't work out. i should have been. but everyone telling me i look like shit sure didn't help motivate me
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@vahnj A friend of mine is incredibly thin and developed intensely disordered eating for fear of being seen as fat. Despite being actually unhealthy, people still commented "Wow, are you losing weight?" in these super positive ways. People need to just... not comment on body-stuff unless asked to, really. Especially anything health adjacent.
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@BigFatFae how i talk to people about body stuff:
1. I don't
2. "you look different! are you dieting or working out?" if you have to
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@vahnj A more personal story, when the owner of the company I worked for told me I should join a program where you pay a company money and promise to lose weight, and then if you fail, they keep the money. "Not that I'm trying to say anything. Not a professional comment or anything. Just a friendly offer~"
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@vahnj Like, the stories can go on and on, tbh, so I don't wanna keep going over them. Just... I was suddenly reminded of that particular one for some reason.
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@BigFatFae grrr people
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@BigFatFae @vahnj yah. I know somebody who got extremely sick, to the point of having difficulty functioning from exhaustion and malnutrition, who was constantly bombarded with "have you lost weight? you look fantastic!!" while *literally starving*. this culture is a giant bullshit sandwich about weight issues. :|
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@BigFatFae aaaaaaaagjhhhhhghghghghhh