I'm fat, and that isn't going away any time soon. Diets, exercise, they didn't work for me. I won't tell anyone how to live their life. But I'll say this: Accepting that you're fat is hard. I struggle with it a lot. But it's been a lot LESS hard than wondering what was wrong with me, trying to fight against biology and failing.

@BigFatFae even when i was at 180 pounds (I'm 6'0") I still felt fat even though when I wasn't considering my body I felt a lot better

But everyone started telling me "oh my god you look SICKLY" all the goddamn time.

so now i'm back up to 205 because then people won't comment on my body all the time

@BigFatFae tbf i didn't work out. i should have been. but everyone telling me i look like shit sure didn't help motivate me

@vahnj A friend of mine is incredibly thin and developed intensely disordered eating for fear of being seen as fat. Despite being actually unhealthy, people still commented "Wow, are you losing weight?" in these super positive ways. People need to just... not comment on body-stuff unless asked to, really. Especially anything health adjacent.

@BigFatFae aaaaaaaagjhhhhhghghghghhh

@BigFatFae how i talk to people about body stuff:

1. I don't
2. "you look different! are you dieting or working out?" if you have to