gaslighting, abuse PSA, clarification
This doesn't mean that you are never sensitive, or that people should never mention it. I say this as someone who really *is* overly sensitive (hello ADHD and RSD), but had that used against me for decades in abusive ways that did nothing to help me manage my sensitivity.
It can be helpful to say, "You seem sensitive about this, and I'd like to learn more about what's stressful to you so I can avoid accidentally hurting you."
It can also be helpful to say, depending on the nature and closeness of the relationship and if it's established that no lines are crossed, "You're obviously suffering and maybe you could learn healthier ways to cope with this."
It can EVEN be hard but honest to say, "I'm sorry, I can't accommodate you the way you need to be. Maybe we should have some space."
However, "You are too sensitive which automatically invalidates your pain and means I can keep on doing whatever the fuck I like no matter how you're hurting lol" is abuse. That is gaslighting. It helps no one except the speaker, certainly not the person who *by the the speaker's own admission* is in inordinate pain. If someone's reaction to your pain is to laugh at you and then keep hurting you, they don't care about you. This is abusive behavior.
USPOL
Why is it that every single argument against anarchism is taken from the lens of capitalism? People don't put that much though on what an anarchist community would look like, and kept putting their own imperialist projections onto it.
"Oh no anarchism wouldn't work because would destroy it."
No duh, that's why anarchism is also about shifting culture towards one that is more geared towards liberation.
re: Plural Meta
@FreyaManibrandr Plurality is a wild ride, but loving your alters is better than being at War with them, can say that much
Plural Meta
It's pretty interesting how being poly becomes the default when you're plural, because like say if your girlfriend came out as plural, and as it turns out all of the alters love you, it's like gaining a new partner you didn't know you had, but are thankful for.
This is a new feeling for me, to be partnered with one of my headmates when we used to be merged together just a few years ago. But then again, life is strange, and I am enjoying the weirdness.
More Plural Self Meta
Freyja is this goof who loves to give her all to those around her, she's always willing to step into the shoes of others and into their worlds to understand them. While that does put her at risk of being abused, she also seems to develop a lot of emotional constitution, and a firebrand rock hard will to push through any hard ships and bounce back. She's also disorganized as fuck.
I, on the other hand, have been able to detect when I am getting upset and eject myself from the situation in a timely manner. I also am a bit more focused on myself, and am constantly paranoid about dealing with potential bad actors. I also seem to have taken her work ethic when we split.
Finding out about myself and where we differ has done a lot for me in these past few days.
Transphobia and shit has no place in a community that boasts such deep introspection and love for one another in the world.
Artist and Composer. Trans plural voidpunk anarchist and antifa nonbinary gremlin. My voice is for the oppressed, and I shall fight for freedom with no quarter, so that those around me won't have to.
Plural members:
> Velvet Silmeria (Fae/They/She/Ey/He)
Räsvelg AY-N4 Tiyaga (Kit/Bit/She/They)
Lenneth Crimson (She/Xey/They/It)
Ashlynn Valefor (Xey/They/It/She)
Ricardo Sophia du Sol (Ey/He/They)
Saturnine Stargazer (She/They/It)
Innominat (They/Them)
Yuri Sunbreaker (It/She)