re: what's been going on with me and my folks
@GoodNewsGreyShoes My parents' relationship to other people and to each other isn't necessarily that healthy. I don't have particularly good role models in that respect, I worry I tend to fall into some of the same problems.
Anyway, money with my folks is weird. I try to be very careful asking them for help, after a very bad incident now about 16 years in the past. It also doesn't help that I'm not sure how much I'm actually helping if any.
re-using the joke from Twitter ages ago;
I am Paul Atreides, son to Duke Leto and the noble lady Jessica, and ducal heir to Caladan.
This is Cringer, my fearless friend.
Fabulous secret powers were revealed to me the day I drank the Water of Life and said, "FATHER! THE SLEEPER HAS AWAKENED!"
Cringer became the mighty BattlePug and I became the Kwisatz Haderach, the most powerful man in the universe. Together we defend Sietch Tabr from the evil forces of the Baron Harkonen!
@ZeirosLion well yeah! In this case it's like drawing hopilites naked - making them NOT naked would look completely off!
re: what's been going on with me and my folks
@GoodNewsGreyShoes This is NOT going to sound good.
It's not all altruism - I haven't cut contact because at some point I might need money, my Dad has financially helped me in the past, and I don't see any other avenue to getting a house other than inheriting theirs.
They're definitely where I got the bad habit of self-isolating. Like, my Dad has friends from his old workplace, but pretty much everyone they know are people they went outside to see - they don't have anyone else over as far as I know. I think a lot of my parents snapping at each other is stuff people outside my family don't get to see.
I really wish my Mom's health would turn better but that seems unlikely, and I have no idea how we're going to keep doing this.
what's been going on with me and my folks
I originally moved up here partway to be around in case my parents needed help with health stuff.
What actually happened with my parents' health was my Mom's mobility finally really went so that she's mostly housebound, and a lot of her other health has been in decline since. My Dad was taking a break from work, but became a full time caretaker. There's not much I physically do to help, but I'm basically there regularly so my Mom feels wanted and valued (mobility issues mean there's little chance of meeting with them anywhere else), and so my Dad has someone else to talk to, and another excuse to take a break from being at home.
Neither of my parents had been easy to be around before and now it's worse. Part of why this is such hard going is this setup (get Dad out of the house, let him vent, make sure I'm around Mom for a bit) means visits are always 7-10 hours, plus time to get there, and trying to get back to emotional equilibrium afterwards usually is a few more hours, so it's basically an all day thing.
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