@ThatDamnCat YEAH like...for me personally, i need like...a LOT of oral stimulation to get to a point where i can be like "cool, i'm ready now!" and if i don't have enough stimulation in between oral and penetration it just sort of goes away :(

which is why nowadays i usually just go down on whoever i'm with and tell them that they don't have to rly do anything to me because i don't want them thinking they're doing a bad job when it's just my libido being fucked

@ThatDamnCat also by the end part, did you mean that like, your erections are gone but you're having rly good orgasms? or did i read that wrong

@Ramona

I've been on HRT for 13 years. My erections are long gone, though I can sometimes feel... a "filling" sensation of arousal... and it's way more intense.

Additionally, the orgasms are more powerful, don't come with guilt after, and I've gone up to 10 orgasms in a row.

I personally like it way better than before HRT

@ThatDamnCat oh! damn, that's a long time, i've only been on it for juuuust over a year, i think? it's been A Time

god i'm worried about fully losing my erections since like, i'm dysphoric about everything EXCEPT my genitals (which is weird but yeah) and penetration can be fun sometimes!

i mean worst comes to worse i could just ask my doc for a viagra script or something (or maybe change from spiro to something else like bicalutamide if i ever have the $$$)

@ThatDamnCat but yeah!!! even a year on HRT, orgasms are a LOT better (they're very full-body instead of just sort of centralised which is still wild to me but i love it) but it also takes me a bit to reach orgasm

@Ramona

100 to 300 on spiro is quite a jump. Your doc must have felt you needed it but you could always try 200 instead. It's good to give your doc feedback on this so they understand what is and what isn't working for you.

At least a couple times I had to raise or lower something because it felt wrong or wasn't desirable.

Hope you sort it out. Enjoying sex can be a big part of mental health while transitioning.

...and congrats on a year!

@ThatDamnCat yeah! my doc said that my testosterone was still kinda far from cis girl levels so he decided to bump me up. honestly i might just start taking 200 instead because the side effects of 300 aren't worth it (and i'm also looking into an orchi if that doesn't work out)

thank you for all of your advice aaaaa you're wonderful <3