Sparrow 🐦 @Sparrow@awoo.space

@eladhen I think the difference is that my state (California) has a decent healthcare plan for poor folx, but a lot of other states a) have shitty (if any) coverage, b) don't help people just above the poverty line who still struggle or c) make the healthcare that is available as inaccessible as possible thru limited information and gatekeeping. So... I'm lucky, definitely not everyone is.

@eladhen Nice to meet you! Unfortunately I do in the fact live in the US, but I'm managing my T1D well enough... My state provides free medical care to my income bracket, so I'm covered for now. ^^

@eladhen Hey there!

@Anke@tootplanet.space you are correct

I saw Othello tonight & it made me cry. But also everything makes me cry. Happy Tuesday.

Superfast Jellyfish

The second gender is a make one that shifts in expression from clean-shaven athletic to emo to flower crown prince, depending on the day.

The last ID could be considered "fem" (not "femme" tho since that's a lesbian ID), but still make, and layered on top of my non-binary gender absolutely not "femme".

So it's just so weird that someone I hardly know would call me "extremely femme".

@ratbaby it was super weird, and in response to a post where I was lamenting how since I've come out as non-binary people who used to be attracted to me aren't because I'm less feminine than they originally thought.

The person's response: "that sucks, but you're extremely femme! ✨"

The way I look at it, I've got 2 gender identities that sit on top of each other.

The main ID is a soft, gentle, "purple" androgynous non-binary. It's always there, very genderqueer, but gets read as feminine because I'm afab and haven't medically transitioned.

So someone described me as "extremely femme" the other day, and I'm trying to work out a) why they would say that and b) why it doesn't sit right with me

@cypnk those are absolutely beautiful!

@Miredly@mastodon.technology

You're absolutely right, I just wish I handled it better (ie told her outright I needed time to myself this week, instead of going with what others wanted and then cancelling later).

Luckily she does have other support. She has a few other good friends and a very close-knit family.

@gingerrroot I basically just told her I was really low on "friend spoons" (socializing energy) and that I didn't want to hurt her feelings but needed to take care of myself. She hasn't replied but I hope she understands. She's been in a bad mental health state lately, and I hope it isn't the thing that pushes her into an even darker place.

She does have some support besides me, though.

@GinnyMcQueen@kitty.town oooh like a scarcity economy thing? That makes a lottt of sense

@SuzanEraslan@anticapitalist.party Oh, well alright then! :P that solves the problem. Go ahead and enjoy your Pride. :D

One of my good friends is going through a really hard time. I like spending time with her, but her personality is a little strong & I often find myself exhausted after hanging out.

I also find myself agreeing to spend time with her when I don't really want to, because I'm afraid of upsetting her.

I honestly don't know what to do. I think I need to simply hang out with her less, but I know she needs support. Any advice?

@SuzanEraslan@anticapitalist.party

A) You're absolutely valid, and
B) He's still welcome to come to Pride as an ally! Just because Pride isn't *for* him doesn't mean he can't attend