Trans issues; coming to terms with facial hair
What if I just don't pay for laser? Just... keep going as a lady that has a 5 o'clock shadow a lot.
I'm tired of having to catch up with beauty standards over things I don't care about much anyways. Those I must love love me as I am now, why do I need to keep pushing myself to some arbitrary standard?
Trans issues; coming to terms with facial hair
@Ulfra_Wolfe Personally, I would look at it more in terms of comfort and goals. Are you happy with how you look? Are you able to accomplish the things you want to accomplish while navigating others' expectations? If so, then you're good. If not, ask yourself what it will take to get there and do those things, but don't pursue beauty standards for their own sake.
Trans issues; coming to terms with facial hair
@Ulfra_Wolfe There's forever a balance to be found between doing the dumb stuff in life because people expect it even if it's meaningless, and calling out societal expectations as cultural artifacts. I can't say where anyone else's line is. Me, I shave every other day or so and I do my best to shrug off those who judge me on my shadow on the days I choose to let slide.
Trans issues; coming to terms with facial hair
@literorrery That's about where I'm at.
Trans issues; coming to terms with facial hair
@Ulfra_Wolfe That is going to make things more complicated unless you can live the rest of your life entirely within the queer scene. And maybe even then.
Trans issues; coming to terms with facial hair
@Ulfra_Wolfe I will also note that laser is probably THE biggest boost to my general “look in mirror, see lady” feels of anything I’ve done. But it’s your choice.
Trans issues; coming to terms with facial hair
@anthracite We'll see if I can develop any kind of income. Going to be stepping up doing hypnosis tracks for Otherkin, at least.
Trans issues; coming to terms with facial hair
@Ulfra_Wolfe might be able to get the state insurance to pay for it? With checking. Good luck♥️
Trans issues; coming to terms with facial hair
@anthracite Thank ewe! You're a nice dragon
Trans issues; coming to terms with facial hair
@Ulfra_Wolfe You really shouldn't have to laser off hair just because you don't want to be the Bearded Woman. Lots of people out there really like beards/mustaches/etc and maybe even the scratchy thing.
If one were to ask me, I would have to admit that I personally find facial hair a turnoff, but not JUST on women, you know? When I think "I don't like facial hair" it's not like it's gender-specific; I just don't like touching the texture it tends to have. My dad had permanent 5-o-clock shadow and I was always like "ew dad I don't want to touch your face, it's scratchy" as a lil kid. But this aversion has nothing to do with woman or man. It's a question of what kinds of textures one likes, and plenty of people DO like facial hair, or even faces that are a little scratchy. Some people like texture.
I imagine people who enjoy facial hair do (or at least should) like it on women as well as men. And if those people have a problem with its being on a woman, then they're just reacting to stupid social conditioning that you shouldn't have to work your life around.
Maybe it's easy for me to say this because I didn't get the facial hair genes and never had to put up with it, but if you like it then you might want to let it be, and if you don't like it...hopefully insurance can take care of it, if not immediately, then in future when you have a different insurance plan / different job / etc.
Trans issues; coming to terms with facial hair
@Ulfra_Wolfe it's up to you to try to not follow those standards!
I've tried during ~1 year and now I know I really hate *my* body hairs (I'm just... "ugh, that's so awful") so... I've started over to shave / wax them.
I think it's ok to try things and ok to revert back if things don't suit us, so... maybe try and see? And don't feel bad if you need something which can be seen as "an imposed standard", it's your life, your feels, your choices 💙
Trans issues; coming to terms with facial hair
Uh, *those that most love me love me...