@Ulfra_Wolfe@witches.town I go back and forth a bit between those two myself admittedly. As a therian/otherkin though, I do sorta find myself feeling closer to the 'fundamentally not-human' side. It's a near thing though, and if there were a Mage setup that embraced that aspect more, I'd be all over at (attn @literorrery ;))
So I ended up starting to read a Werewolf the Apocalypse novel and I'm realizing... This is like already more spiritually fulfilling than like 95% of the pagan books I've read in the past couple years.
I forgot how much that cosmology is (weirdly enough) my comfy-place, very very foundational for me. It's the thing that slotted right into the head of a proto-furry who grew up hearing animism-informed myths and just... took root.
Came home from shopping trip and @Elanna asked me to get the batteries or of the bag. I reached in and absentmindedly pulled out these
Coyote batteries.
(coffee shot and bison jerky)
https://awoo.space/media/AtWEPnh4-goLyrPsEYQ
@KawaSeadrake Heheee. Yeah actually I have a positive thing about 'it' in some scene-spaces too. The 'he' context here is a bit broader than that one FWIW.
Hypothetically-asked questions about the gender terminology stuff, answered:
Why/why now?
Gender is complicated, nonbinary gender doubly so. This is actually in line with stuff I've been saying to close friends for a while now.
Does this mean you're detransitioning?
No. :P
Does this mean you regret aspects of your transition?
NO. >:|
This seems hard/counterintuitive?
You probably already refer to me (or others) with different names in different contexts. I'm sure you can do this too.
Magic, Internal Monologues
@literorrery I am legitimately surprised this is not already a thing. ;)
Updated & clarified gender terminology advisory, trial version:
If we know each other well, particularly if you interact with me in meatspace:
Please use he/him and casual masculine-leaning terms (dude, boy (notably not 'man' but that's more for species reasons)) to refer to me in private/intimate contexts.
Please continue to use gender-neutral terminology (they and ve are my preferred pronouns for such) in other contexts, and correct non-close-folks who use the wrong terminology.
Thank you!
@itsnero @neonNeptunian @irisjaycomics Yeah I'm lucky I didn't see that article before I went to the art store twice in the past week for drum stuff. Already had to try real hard not to impulse-buy stuff. ;)
@neonNeptunian Yeah but I'd want a pile of 'em. :)
@itsnero @irisjaycomics Oh dang those look so rad that I kinda just want to have some around to doodle pointlessly, too bad they're probably hecking expensive for casual use. :)
Gender stuff, now with a specific question about pronouns
@CoronaCoreanici Yes, yes, that does seem more common, that's what I am saying. :)
Gender stuff, now with a specific question about pronouns
@CoronaCoreanici Yeeeeah that's the 'counter-intuitive' part. :\
Gender stuff, now with a specific question about pronouns
Okay whoa yeah @cassolotl@cybre.space and @vagabondsun are right, I'm basically setting up a third-person equivalent of tu/vous here. XD
I always felt like that was really hard for me to remember in French too though. >.<
Gender stuff, now with a specific question about pronouns
Like, it actually seems like what would be best for me there, when it comes to pronouns, would be something like:
In personal/close-friend contexts, please use 'he'
Otherwise, including when interacting with the rest of the shitty world, 'they' (or 've' if you're hardcore)
But that seems way way WAY too contextual (in a counter-intuitive way) to expect people to go with?
Gender stuff
So like the upshot here is it turns out the way I want to be read and treated depends powerfully on my social distance to someone.
Random people on the street: Please be royally confused by my queerness.
People close to me: Can I please just be a soft boy
In-between those two: ?????
Gender stuff
This is sorta related to some stuff I was realizing back in January, running into folks I'd known from back in California, who also turned out to be trans. And I found myself thinking 'oh gods I hope they don't read me as trans too' because, with them not knowing the context, it seemed most likely that if they did, they'd read me as transfeminine-and-doing-it-wrong.
Gender stuff
It's like, if I have to be taken as one of the binary options, I'd rather it be M, because I have a degree of experience and comfort with playing in that space and subverting it.
When it comes to being recognized as nonbinary.... to be completely fucking honest I don't really have much trust that the modern discourse can DO that in a way that doesn't discuss it in terms of the binary labels. I blame culture for this, not people, but it basically still leaves me in the same M place.
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