I think I had a flash of insight in understanding the term Relationship Anarchy. Basically :prioritizing the emotions of yourself and the people around you over any concept of formal structure of any relationship.
...which is basically what I think I've been doing for years?
@starkatt somehow I made a few quick mental hops to imagining relationships as skateboard tricks
180 double kickflip to loving partnership!!!
A thing I've said before: "a relationship isn't a thing you *have*, it's a thing you *do*."