Crinklewott 💕 @thingywott@awoo.space

older picture, but i really enjoy these diapers..!

#abdl

kink-positivity affects my happiness very directly

but what exactly ARE kinks? and do they even slightly deserve the compassion i wish others had for them?

i don't want to equate this to any marginalized group because that seems extremely disrespectful, but i'd be lying if i said i wasn't at least a little jealous of efforts to protect them, and wish that my own predicaments had some level of support too

but i'm worried that feeling isn't justifiable

maybe i'm missing something?

if you see a thing that seems bad to miss, definitely gimme a heads up

it's an important topic to me because i live my kinks 100% of the time because it adds a tiny bit of ambient happiness to every moment i'm alive–but i also want to be respectful with how i do it–so i'll always keep myself hidden

but like, does someone like me deserve acceptance in how i live? or am i fair game for all repercussions if discovered because i chose this optional thing myself?

i feel like the ambiguity stems from the fact that anything that has the possibility of ever being sexual is assumed to basically *always* be sexual

like, it took ages for furries to not be assumed to be %100 "a sex thing"

and well, no shade to sex stuff, but i think the distinction is important when considering the tangible policies that people who like certain things are restricted by because of this

consent is always king, so nobody should subject others to sexual things they don't EXPLICITLY want to be involved in

but it also does make me wonder what it means for kink-positivity as a whole; do kinks deserve acceptance as a thing that people don't need to hide as much?

where anyone who has a kink doesn't need to quash their non-lewd existence as if parts of it were "deviant sex things" when they actually are just plain 'ol interests on overdrive

would this be bad somehow..?

but are those associations flawed?

are people limiting their interaction with non-lewd things because they think they are?
are they associating all the mental baggage society has about sexual things with them wrongly?

nintendo has this thing where a lot of stuff they put in their games would be treated like porn if it was drawn by a fan; where things are only "not sexual" if it's in popular media

this combined with how kinks manifest in non-lewd ways all the time for fans makes me wonder…

it's like the definition is just "something where the very existence of that thing makes us happy, and being reminded about it, or being able to live with it is something we just generally enjoy a lot"

and if we like those things enough that they happen to not seem out-of-place during lewd situations, they take on their common associations and characteristics that non-ace people seem to experience

what even ARE kinks?

it seems like the definition implies that you like the idea of a thing during sex, but it's obviously much, *much* more then that. i mean, asexual people are some of the thirstiest people i've ever met kink-wise!

are they just a tier of enjoying things that goes beyond simply liking something? where they aren't actually sexual, but just things that we like enough that the idea of them being included in those situations doesn't seem unpleasant?

i'm like, the exact opposite of what the person who invented spanking was probably envisioning

having a fetish is wild

me: i feel sad
*gets spanked*
me: actually, i'm pretty happy

apply this to the concept of punishment, and suddenly it starts to look a lot different

suddenly, it becomes a game of chance whether or not you are going to end up in a situation where society as a whole has decided that you *must* be harmed

a lottery of pain

this makes circumstance an even larger agent of chaos than it already is, and i don't think that's a good thing--it's yet another way for the world to become more pointlessly cruel to the unprivileged

the main reason i mentioned "ignorance" is because i feel like a lot of consequences are justified by the assumption that people are the way they are, and that they "100% know what they are doing"

and the problem is that, well, *a lot of people do know what they are doing*...but a lot of people are the way they are because they got unlucky with the context that surrounds them

i don't think we try to differentiate these two things nearly enough

i wonder how many people could be reformed if we put more energy into trying to do that, instead of considering ignorance to be a good enough justification to scar people for life

and, would people who were wronged even want that? or would the lack of retaliation when possible be seen generally enough as robbing them of their justified schadenfreude?

you know, i get the reason it exists, but i really do hate the idea of punishment

there's just something about someone extensively harming others in a way that is deemed "acceptable" that just makes me very uncomfortable

part of it is just raw empathy for anything that can feel, yes–but i'm also convinced that it's applied much more than it's actually needed (as opposed to more peeps addressing underlying issues with ignorant people and the environments that shaped them)

hm. maybe i should post some of my diaper selfies here..?

i don't take a lot of pictures of myself, but maybe others might like them!

because it protects you from the virus, i see a lot more people washing their hands

or more specifically, i see a lot more *men* washing their hands, which leads me to the conclusion of, well, WERE THERE REALLY THAT MANY MEN WHO DIDN'T WASH THEIR HANDS BEFORE THIS??

now that i kinda know how to use it, i tried to animate something a little less robotic..!

#spanking

pfft

popular gamer peeps worry me, so this is always extremely nice to see

carl sagan says trans rights

https://twitter.com/Carl_Sagan42/status/1235072681839439875