Krissy @BigFatFae@awoo.space

@vahnj A friend of mine is incredibly thin and developed intensely disordered eating for fear of being seen as fat. Despite being actually unhealthy, people still commented "Wow, are you losing weight?" in these super positive ways. People need to just... not comment on body-stuff unless asked to, really. Especially anything health adjacent.

I'm fat, and that isn't going away any time soon. Diets, exercise, they didn't work for me. I won't tell anyone how to live their life. But I'll say this: Accepting that you're fat is hard. I struggle with it a lot. But it's been a lot LESS hard than wondering what was wrong with me, trying to fight against biology and failing.

@kel@witches.town For what it's worth, my understanding is that anyone from awoo who follows you will still see you fine!

@vahnj That is super cute! A good list :3

Games, in no particular order:
Final Fantasy 7
Undertale
I Wanna Be The Guy
Legend of Zelda: Link to the Past
Spelunky

Reasons, in no particular order:
The intensity, focus and patience
The message
The storytelling and sense of exploration
The aesthetic and setting
The gameplay and humor

@Ulfra_Wolfe@witches.town Really not too far from my own kinks~ Totally different mechanisms behind them, you seeking someone bigger than you, and me seeking someone smaller and agile-er. But all the same, def the same general idea~

It's.. the Jaria suit.
https://fruityjampaws.tumblr.com/post/166127470416/varia-suit-but-made-entirely-out-of-blue-jeans https://awoo.space/media/jQKNcodv0bMoO1RA17w

Pieces of stories already written in my mind, flashes of thoughts that can't exist without a world to support them, but no such world has come into being. Secrets can't exist until the backbone to a world exists.

Lately, I'm full of all sorts of sporadic inspiration for writing. But I can't ever place that inspiration to words. It's too fleeting?

Radical idea, I know

Lets try something new, brain. Instead of... Worrying and filling with anxiety about what people think of us... Including people who we're incredibly close with... Who have told us that they would let us know if something was wrong... Maybe try... Nnnnnot doing that. Its good to be aware of yourself, but hyper vigilance goes beyond that. Stoppit.

Pension fund report:
For: All employees who are union and full time
Includes: Employee Info (SSN/BD/Hire date), hours worked during month

Okay, easy enough. Just do an hours worked summary report... Wait, something's wrong. It doesn't include... that person? Oh because they switched to On-call this month... How can I get them included anyways?

I ended up using the on-call differential, and STILL had to manually correct a couple. Stupid system limitations

4 months of reports done in 1 hour. Woo. Would have been faster but I had to do a few really weird things to get around system limitations

I have a lot of intuitive sense for this, I feel I can navigate this safely, myself, on both ends. I am sensitive to context and have a stronger than average ability to decipher intent behind people's words. But I have friends who are not as able to navigate this, and I'd like to find words to help explain the process to them, give examples and clearer delineations where it's possible.

I assume like in most cases, it's actually a lot of factors. Context, presentation, word choice, and even intent. (Isolation vs self protection). But intent can be difficult or impossible to intuit. How can one identify when their own actions are potentially abusive, or when someone else's *might* be, from both sides of this?

So.... I have thoughts regarding 'ultimatums'. But I'm still trying to figure out the wordage for it.

When somebody says "You cut THEM out of your life, or ME", that's clearly bad. But when you say "I need you to improve your treatment of me, or I won't be able to continue the relationship", there's more grey area, room for it to be okay. What specific component or context can make this okay when the first is so clearly not okay without extensive damning context?

The creator said that putting in achievements, deciding what would have been considered 'good' would have ruined the game for a lot of people.

And I think there's a LOT to that.

The standards set out for us by others are inherently flawed. They do not exist within our world, with our experiences, with our limitations. All of your accomplishments, no matter how mundane, could be amazing if someone were given the same tools and experiences you had.