Whoever put a "b" in subtlety is a genius, and whoever put an "s" in lisp is an asshole #Showerthoughts
realtalk there's a time for being soft and gentle but i wanna see people caring about care!!!
idk i'm trying to be positive and uplifting with this but i'm also frustrated so that's hard!! care is important!! actual one-on-one real deep not-subtooting open emotional vulnerable care!! we should talk about care more and teach each other by example and build strong networks of support instead of weak ones of affirmation imo!! (and we are!! i'm just frustrated!! not at anyone here!! but like!! everyone else!!)
anyway it's frustrating because!! i'm just one person!! i can't care for everybody!! and it's tiring that there aren't more and other and different kibis in people's lives!!
and when nobody has ever done that with you (again NOT a subtoot; i was this way until college) then you have a situation where (A) you don't know how to show others care, because you've never seen it done, and (B) you're really bad at receiving it!! (yes!! you can be bad at receiving care!!) and when LOTS of people are in this situation (aka a COMMUNITY) then the problem is exacerbated and grrrrr
i'm also frustrated because. i meet so many people where like i express like the tiniest amount of care towards them and they're like OMG (this is NOT a subtoot btw) like nobody ever does that to me and i'm just like!! why not!! like the most basic shit like oh, checking in, seeing how you're doing, let's talk about our feelings, oh hey, you're feeling down, can i help you feel better, do you have a self-care routine, okay let's work on that,
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