Indi Latrani @indi@awoo.space
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pronouns: he/him • ve/ver
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Glowy Postfurry Gay Coyotter Rave Toy.
Responding to @mentions and not much else. 💜
Joined Apr 2017
(plz don't boost, BTW, hopefully that goes without saying. 💜)
Updated & clarified gender terminology advisory, trial version:
If we know each other well, particularly if you interact with me in meatspace:
Please use he/him and casual masculine-leaning terms (dude, boy (notably not 'man' but that's more for species reasons)) to refer to me in private/intimate contexts.
Please continue to use gender-neutral terminology (they and ve are my preferred pronouns for such) in other contexts, and correct non-close-folks who use the wrong terminology.
Thank you!
Gender stuff, now with a specific question about pronouns
Okay whoa yeah @cassolotl@cybre.space and @vagabondsun are right, I'm basically setting up a third-person equivalent of tu/vous here. XD
I always felt like that was really hard for me to remember in French too though. >.<
Gender stuff, now with a specific question about pronouns
Like, it actually seems like what would be best for me there, when it comes to pronouns, would be something like:
In personal/close-friend contexts, please use 'he'
Otherwise, including when interacting with the rest of the shitty world, 'they' (or 've' if you're hardcore)
But that seems way way WAY too contextual (in a counter-intuitive way) to expect people to go with?
Gender stuff
So like the upshot here is it turns out the way I want to be read and treated depends powerfully on my social distance to someone.
Random people on the street: Please be royally confused by my queerness.
People close to me: Can I please just be a soft boy
In-between those two: ?????
Gender stuff
This is sorta related to some stuff I was realizing back in January, running into folks I'd known from back in California, who also turned out to be trans. And I found myself thinking 'oh gods I hope they don't read me as trans too' because, with them not knowing the context, it seemed most likely that if they did, they'd read me as transfeminine-and-doing-it-wrong.
Gender stuff
It's like, if I have to be taken as one of the binary options, I'd rather it be M, because I have a degree of experience and comfort with playing in that space and subverting it.
When it comes to being recognized as nonbinary.... to be completely fucking honest I don't really have much trust that the modern discourse can DO that in a way that doesn't discuss it in terms of the binary labels. I blame culture for this, not people, but it basically still leaves me in the same M place.
Gender stuff
So yeah, been having some difficult feelings of my own lately, relating to my fractally-weird preference for (heavily-queered) masculinity both in myself and my partners. And writing it out like that doesn't even sound right, it's one of those frustrating 'this makes sense in my head but doesn't come out in words' things.
Indi Latrani
boosted
Mood: Sad and gay (h/t @vahnj ;))
Hot ritual design tip: Take down the smoke detector before filling the room with incense.
Wow I've been jumping topics today. Got so many boosts for my design toot, and then this.
Indi at awoo dot space! Come for the UX, stay for the... Okay y'know what, as far as I'm concerned, spiritwork is UX too. ^.^ Otherworld-interface-design. ^.^
And now for the weird post-ritual food cravings. Raw onion dipped in hummus. *coyoteing*
And, ritual complete. May I formally present: Dancer's Paw. (Zie/zir pronouns, but masc-of-center)
https://awoo.space/media/Ax5aKJDNN-YmTrWJ8SM
Not a subtoot, incidentally, just a tangent from conversation elsewhere. Mostly talking about software here. :)
Poorly designed systems can cause people to become bad actors despite their best intentions.
Imagine a narrow hallway that has doors opening into it, The hallway is so narrow that opening a door pretty much blocks the whole hallway, and the doors have no windows so you can't see who's in the hall before you open them. You can be the nicest person in the world with the best of intentions, but if you use those doors often enough, you are gonna hit someone in the face.
Indi Latrani
boosted
lunatic plans, intent (re: Burning Man)
(if I need further help, I might do something crowdfundy.
Right now the biggest spokes are 'waveform collapse' which is due in a week and 'find ticket' to Burning Man; everything kind of hinges on those. So this plan likely may not even succeed, but eh!
Um. Thanks, though, if you're reading this. The support means a lot. n..n# )
LB: Let's all help get this glowy dreamotter to Burning Man, shall we? 💜
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pronouns: he/him • ve/ver
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Glowy Postfurry Gay Coyotter Rave Toy.
Responding to @mentions and not much else. 💜
Joined Apr 2017
