Crinklewott 💕 @thingywott@awoo.space

@codl that's true! but on the other hand, you're codl

@ctrlaltdog@chitter.xyz night bailey..! ^^

@ctrlaltdog@chitter.xyz sorry i couldn't really give you any new ideas ^^'

but yeah, it definitely seems like a bad idea to interrupt your quiet time, which means that mornings and nights make sense for you

as for bedtime anxiety, if i'm up and you're feeling anxious, feel free to talk to me..! maybe there's a way i can help in those moments

i don't want you to feel bad, so i'd be happy to help you through that! and maybe it will help you sleep when you want to as well

@ctrlaltdog@chitter.xyz dang...

i figured you probably already thought about this a bunch before i started writing unsolicited words at you, but i figured i'd mention what worked for me at least in the off chance that it could help

i wonder what combination of actions would make you feel the best here..?

@ctrlaltdog@chitter.xyz oh, yikes

i wonder if the nighttime quiet is what brings out your worst anxieties too? because if so, maybe you can try to never sleep when the sun is out, and never stay up when it goes away?

i know that's probably impossible but, have you considered trying some melatonin? your body generates it naturally, so taking more of it is pretty safe, and might be able to kickstart a new habit..?

@ctrlaltdog@chitter.xyz i'm not a morning person, so it's been tricky

but also, it's been a lot *less* tricky than anything else i've tried, so maybe it can help you too! ^^'

@ctrlaltdog@chitter.xyz i feel this--i'm trying to get my sleep schedule in order too :s

i think the thing that has helped me the most so far was setting a routine that i start every night at 9:30 where i decide that i'm going to try *really* hard to not use my computer or phone, (it's not the end of the world if i do, it's just best-effort) and instead just draw or read

the idea is to be wound down by 10:30 so i can get to sleep and wake up every morning at the same time, weekend or not

@karma hell yeah!!

@karma i think the biggest point here is that, we all only have so much willpower in a day–but habits and routines kinda just bypass the requirement for that

but habits and routines about boring things are boring!! so use them to justify doing something nice for yourself to help them stick, because they can both make ED less of a hurdle, and also be generally good for your mental health (because it reinforces that you matter too! because you do!)

@karma it's hard, yeah–but it can be a thing you invent to treat yourself too! like, is there something you enjoy doing that you can use to kinda segue into a routine?

for example, i only ever listen to podcasts when doing chores–and there are a podcasts that i actually *really* want to listen to in my free time

so suddenly, instead of having to do work, my mind sees it as an "uninterrupted time i can find out what happens next in this podcast", removing inertia

@karma anyway, sorry for barging into your mentions

i just figured that if there was a chance i could make you feel less bad about this, it was probably worth it ^^

@karma i'm not sure if it will help, but i found it easiest to start doing things by finding the part i can do without worrying about inertia, and the rest often follows

for example, it doesn't take effort for me to put on music, and if i make that a part of the "routine" for doing something, suddenly instead of being faced with a brick wall of inertia when i wanna do that thing, i'm just faced with the task of putting on music--something i'd probably do anyway!