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Just a reminder to admins, if you want to note your remembrance of Natalie and your use of x-clacks-overhead head here xclacksoverhead.org/listing/th

We're observing a period of silence in honor of Natalie Nguyen. We'll be back next week.

She is not dead while her name is still spoken.

GNU Natalie Nguyen

This is more a note to me than any kind of critique.

If you love someone, tell them. If you like them, say it. Tell them you care. Tell them they're cool or smart, or funny.Don't just sit on those good feelings.

There are a lot of people in the world who without a moment's thought spread hate, loathing, contempt, and destruction.

But so often we are quiet and reserved about our affection, as if it were embarrassing.

So, please, "If you feel something, say something."

do whatever you need to do to cope

take a day or more of silence, distract yourself with mundane things, look at pictures of cute animals, tell jokes, watch science videos, shitpost (but be respectful about it), play video games

but don't think you're undeserving of comfort right now.

The good news is if I died, you'd know. A couple people know me IRL and use masto.

That's sort of comforting in a way, a source of comfort a lot of people don't have. I know, it's weird to refer to that as "comfort" but one of my biggest fears is disappearing and people worrying about me. It brings closure.

for those wondering about the X Clacks Overhead thing, since I Had to look it up too,

gnuterrypratchett.com/

Her name is Natalie Nguyen. She was, and is loved. She existed. She mattered. She is gone, and missed, but not forgotten.

personal suicidal experiences 

I'm not now, hopefully never will be again, but I was, very, for a long time. the *only reason* I never made a solid attempt was that I was afraid of "failing," and of pain.

I once... set a date. got supplies, planned it out, was just--biding time. but then I overheard a conversation in a diner, and for some reason that stopped me.

a few months later I met Spouse, like the sun rising in my life.

If this is your first major experience with grief, it's normal to feel angry for a while.

Lashing out against others is a normal response. Try to remember that it's not their fault, and they're going through the same thing.

Be understanding of others who are angry.

it's snowing. here. right now. flakes falling down past my window.

I'm not a boundless fount of emotional spoons, I get overwhelmed and burned out too, but I have everything I need - all the support and resources.

If YOU need someone, I'm always here, and will always listen, take a walk, get a drink, anything.

HMU.

did you have anything to eat? drink? had your coffee yet? any meds you need to take?

take deep breaths, and don't forget to take care of your body right now.

This might be the first loss for a lot of people... so keep in mind it's sometimes worse later, like in a car accident. It hits you later. So be there for your friends for the next few days/weeks as people process what's going on.

Hugs to all of you today.

Everyone.

You're all precious and loved.

I shut down my bots. Would be nice if y'all awooligans could keep shitposting off the public timeline for a while, too, thank you

The world is better with you in it (yes, even you), and it would be worse without you (yes, even you).

This is an article of faith for me, and I'm not trying to guilt you into agreeing, I'm just standing up to (hopefully) be counted as someone who believes it.

Hey friends. I see some anxiety about typing out hugs and other physical comforting actions being performive and stuff. It's not. We gotta make do with the format we have to comfort one another.

Hang in there, friends.

There is also a help line for trans and non-binary people: translifeline.org/

United States: +1-877-565-8860
Canada: +1-877-330-6366

I want the ep where some villain blows up the school but everyone makes it out and the Salem Center Islamic Center shows up with dinner and volunteer trauma counselors.

Basically, I want a show about kindness and heroism, not a bleak thirty seconds into the future reflection of the worst of the world outside my window.

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