Crinklewott 💕 @thingywott@awoo.space

what even ARE kinks?

it seems like the definition implies that you like the idea of a thing during sex, but it's obviously much, *much* more then that. i mean, asexual people are some of the thirstiest people i've ever met kink-wise!

are they just a tier of enjoying things that goes beyond simply liking something? where they aren't actually sexual, but just things that we like enough that the idea of them being included in those situations doesn't seem unpleasant?

@ky0ko ooh, congrats!

i love the feel when pull requests get merged into things you use~ ^^

i'm like, the exact opposite of what the person who invented spanking was probably envisioning

having a fetish is wild

me: i feel sad
*gets spanked*
me: actually, i'm pretty happy

@EeveeEuphoria AGREE

@typhlosion oof, yeah, i feel you

i hope you feel better soon though! personally, i'm thinking i might try to go outside for a bit to kick this funk

i usually don't think about doing that, and i have nowhere in particular in mind, but hey! maybe i'll find something neat or refreshing. hee

@typhlosion i feel like i've been a bit of a bummer locally; i'm sorry if i've been adding to this

it probably doesn't help with all the external stuff happening right now, huh? :T

@SoniEx2 don't negotiate with terrorists. if someone keeps doing this to you, remove that person from your life instead of trying to manipulate them to feel bad

someone like that probably doesn't care about your mental health, and self-harming would only hurt the people who actually do care enough to not do that

remember, externally, self harm *only* affects the people who care about you, which is why it's abusive to leverage it for manipulation

@PaulFerence it works too :(

i never have any idea how to handle that, because i do care about these people, and i don't want them to harm themselves--and it extremely sucks when they self-harm and i know one of my decisions directly influenced that

but i also know that complying would mean i'm rewarding the idea of self-harm

so it becomes a huge pressure point for me that i hate, and if it happens often enough, i have to find a way to justify cutting off the abuse

apply this to the concept of punishment, and suddenly it starts to look a lot different

suddenly, it becomes a game of chance whether or not you are going to end up in a situation where society as a whole has decided that you *must* be harmed

a lottery of pain

this makes circumstance an even larger agent of chaos than it already is, and i don't think that's a good thing--it's yet another way for the world to become more pointlessly cruel to the unprivileged

the main reason i mentioned "ignorance" is because i feel like a lot of consequences are justified by the assumption that people are the way they are, and that they "100% know what they are doing"

and the problem is that, well, *a lot of people do know what they are doing*...but a lot of people are the way they are because they got unlucky with the context that surrounds them

i don't think we try to differentiate these two things nearly enough

i wonder how many people could be reformed if we put more energy into trying to do that, instead of considering ignorance to be a good enough justification to scar people for life

and, would people who were wronged even want that? or would the lack of retaliation when possible be seen generally enough as robbing them of their justified schadenfreude?

you know, i get the reason it exists, but i really do hate the idea of punishment

there's just something about someone extensively harming others in a way that is deemed "acceptable" that just makes me very uncomfortable

part of it is just raw empathy for anything that can feel, yes–but i'm also convinced that it's applied much more than it's actually needed (as opposed to more peeps addressing underlying issues with ignorant people and the environments that shaped them)

hm. maybe i should post some of my diaper selfies here..?

i don't take a lot of pictures of myself, but maybe others might like them!

@rufflebat oh, thank you!

i really need to be extra careful with how i spend my spoons in a day now, so i've gone full-on structure-mode

that lets me use habits to take care of stuff that would normally require willpower so i can have more energy to do other stuff~

@rufflebat hee, that's 'cause this *is* cute..!

because it protects you from the virus, i see a lot more people washing their hands

or more specifically, i see a lot more *men* washing their hands, which leads me to the conclusion of, well, WERE THERE REALLY THAT MANY MEN WHO DIDN'T WASH THEIR HANDS BEFORE THIS??

@XerTheSquirrel ohh! congratulations!!