self-scrutiny
huh... i seem to have this problem where i selfishly assume bad things that happen around me *are* about me
i should try to notice when i do this, because it will turn me into a drama llama if i'm not careful
of course, i still need to be empathetic, but i really should be careful i don't cause more problems than the ones which actually exist by willing them into being
it's staggering how many things i drew that i am proud of that were actually complete accidents
@palabomeno 👀
@scoliwings they're good links bront
@jorts now i want to start calling socks proxies "soxies"
@confusedcharlot it's okay to be the vanguard for your style
your particular brand of weird doesn't have to line up with anyone's
i say this because i'm kind of a vanguard too...i'm *totally* not weird in the right ways either
but that's ok! lets both be strange in our own ways!
@regresssion oh, welcome..!
i think a good way to get a sense for this place is to stalk the local timeline
no guarantees that's the best way, but it's what i've been up to for the last few days and it's been quite nice
@PluralPupper the awoo hellscape?
more like the awoo helloscape!
RL, lewd, anxiety
@Reynart laaate, but doooo eeeet!
that's why they exist, after all!
try to not trap yourself with the expectations you are trying to escape
@AnubysIshtar awoo..!
kink event, fetishes
earlier today, i went to a femdom event, and the gender ratio was...remarkably unsurprising
besides the organizer, there were only two girls there
i like to think i am really good with people, but i wonder how much i need to step up my game to have a chance with ratios like this when i like diapers and most people at kink events find them "meh"
so, i got distracted and missed my stop on the train by a long shot
i didn't really get disappointed though--i just decided to go and use that as an excuse to grab groceries instead
is this the programmer in me? i wonder how many bugs i turn into features?
i mean, i seem to make a lot of mistakes that i actually legitimately use for other things
@noiob
A: my phone is a payment method
B: YOUR FACE IS A PAYMENT METHOD
A: yes
B: yes
@AnubysIshtar i hear you!
i have a few trans friends who i considered telling my secret so they wouldn't feel so alone in being unlike most others
i have for one, and it seems to have been really reassuring--even though fetishes aren't the same thing as identities, the fact that someone close to them is also different kinda give you a nice kinship in a way
@AnubysIshtar this is not the same thing as not caring by the way
i do care. a lot!
the difference is that i also care about the kind of company i keep and am okay to let things play out if the worst possible things happened
(i wouldn't intentionally cause that to happen, of course...but i also wouldn't be afraid if it did)
@AnubysIshtar eh, awkward is awkward
but at least knowing how to express the things you are thinking can help a lot
and actually, i only recently stopped being terrified of hypothetical worsts...not because they won't happen--but because i'm kind of okay with being identified by something i actually like
this *is* me, after all...so it's a very good indicator of who i should want to keep the company of
after i realized this, i stopped worrying so much and became a lot less awkward
oh hi! i do computers, and sometimes draw stuff~ i like lo-fi things and cute aesthetics!
i also probably like you
(also, tagged #abdl ahead, soooo 🔞)