Drugs, Domestic Dispute
Will somebody please tell my darling love @ElectricKeet that they're TRICHOMES, not "flavor crystals?"
selfie
I'm a 'ponsibl sittin' on a seat on th' bus like a people.
pol, language
The little ways in which we talk about things matter.
Writing code in which I have to toggle between "assume ALLOW and prevent specific systems from engaging" and "assume DENY and permit specific systems to engage" behavior states, I needed a pair of terms.
Right, "Opt-Out" and "Opt-In."
And if you had the thought you probably did, it's okay. So did I. And then I decided I could do better. And so can you. It's just mindfulness and practice. Take what steps you can, as you can.
Devotional
Saturday, I had to swap out my phone for a new model. It wasn't my choice; I didn't want an "upgrade." I wanted a replacement for the device I had, but that model was out of stock and no longer being made; it was upgrade, rely on a broken tool, or do without. After some argument and some fuming, I accepted the upgrade, but I was determined not to be happy about it, and I said "Four months from now I can really upgrade; no point in investing myself here."
“The only thing that really worried me was the ether. There is nothing in the world more helpless and irresponsible and depraved than a bunny in the depths of an ether binge. And I knew we'd get into that rotten stuff pretty soon. Probably at the next gas station.”
Work, Documentation for the future
Last night, I had a good long talk with @mawr about an ongoing saga at work, and I realized that I'm a lot angrier about it than I've let myself notice before. If I were being treated as an equal to my peers, my decision not to embrace every new hotness would've been respected as a reflection of my role as team lead of the Site Reliability domain. Instead it's instantly interpreted as resistance to progress, regardless of my reasons.
Anyone remember the Buzz Lightyear cartoon they made? Also remember how it had this fetish? https://slime.global/media/A8oZx8VrTgPRAt4qg6k
stalking; doxing; james damore situation; please boost
"Like, where do you get your ideas?"
I was at the dentist this morning getting a deep cleaning, and they numbed half my face to get under the gumline. I told the nurse it felt like she'd turned my face to stone.
I now have a story seed for a medieval plastic surgeon that uses petrification potions, sculptor's tools, and modeling clay to give people their perfect bodies. Of course, no magical ritual is without risk, and side effects do happen.... #writing
Design Thinking about sexuality in communities
Re the current discussions about making friends in communities where open sexuality is common, I'm thinking about how we can do better with tools and values about communication.
So, I have a question for folks, especially those who feel they're not well-served in these communities currently:
What do YOU, personally, want others to know about your needs, regarding sexuality or lack thereof?
(Answers in DMs okay!)
Account inactive -- moved to weirder.earth