Goldkin @Goldkin@awoo.space

@salameleon tl;dr: people on Twitter are perpetuating a stereotype, and it sucks. -_-

@salameleon To that end, I think the elephant in the room isn't fetish or substance use, but what to do about people who repeatedly violate the rules of the spaces they participate in. And that is the job of con security.

The best cons I've been to have excellent security and are not afraid to pull badges for misbehavior. Leading to more open-ended rules on who gets to participate, instead of trying to exclude every group that might overlap with individuals that are destructive.

@salameleon I think Twitter has, at this point, fallen so far down the rabbit hole of misinformation and mob rule that people will latch onto anything to vent their frustration.

To that end, I think quite a few people still (mistakenly) associate open displays of fetish gear with the closure of RF, as opposed a level of unchecked disinhibition that resulted in severe destruction of property.

There is a balance on both of these, but what I've seen flying around Twitter isn't it.

@frameacloud Welcome to here!

@Thaminga Yeah. I know for me, it’s difficult to communicate, “I want to make nice things and not participate in interpersonal politics to the greatest degree possible” when so many people were thrown into this climate of trying to politicize everything.

Which is maybe why it’s so important to have spaces like Masto that can let people build with fewer hot tempers and nazis to worry about.

I guess that’s more of a vent than a hot take. Eh.

I think I’m going to go back to doodling cutes while puzzling over Opus Magnum to take my mind off of difficult things.

I am also kind of incredibly thankful for everyone that tolerated me while I went through the bad parts over a year ago.

The penance arc the mind puts you through after leaving a group, where you don’t understand what’s going on and don’t want to cause more harm, really sucks and I do not recommend it to anyone.

Related: I need to get comfortable with kink and lewds on main again. I have no idea why those were the first to go when birdsite got so bad, other than as a self-preservation mechanism.

Hello, I’d like to stop being the paladin in the group and live a little. I’d like to skip to the part in the hero redemption arc where I’m accepted as the flawed and weird person that I am, instead of everyone thinking I’m wrong or somehow faking it.

Which is another way of saying, I’d like to be more approachable and actually talk about what I like again, but reversing the damage from the past years to where I’m comfortable is kind of hard on me right now.

Weh. ;..;

@Taylor ... my mind autocompleted this as inflatoraptor, which would also be about right.

@Sparkyopteryx Yessssss. This looks great.