Self Doubt, Gaslighting, Memory [3/3]
@mawr fwiw afaik none of my memory problems are specifically related to trauma, though I've had my share of abusive relationships and gaslighting attempts--I'm actually pretty resistant to gaslighting *because* of my bad memory; if I want to remember something I'll often write it down, and when gaslit about it later be like "no... see, here's where/when that happened..." :P
Self Doubt, Gaslighting, Memory [3/3]
@mawr nowdays I have no ability to remember how long ago anything happened. unless I can attach a specific date to it, like "last Wednesday" or "November 1998," my brain insists it happened "sometime in the past, maybe last month, maybe last year, maybe a decade ago? idklol"
part of my fascination with narratives is that I'm constantly having to reconstruct my own memories by making up narratives, of "first x happened, then y, that led to z..."
Self Doubt, Gaslighting, Memory [3/3]
@mawr ohmygosh, I have such memory problems. I specifically have difficulty with context: I'll know I've seen a person's face before, but can't remember where or when; I'll recognize a name, but can't attach a face or any particular memory to it. and I have a bunch of "false memories", some back in childhood, that I have no idea if they're real or not--some I know for sure aren't, but parse *exactly* like the "real" ones.
@kel@witches.town @Jacel wait I'm not
@Jacel I made it home, so all's well etcetera. XD
I discovered a downside to me hanging out at the Lyon's Den! it's an awesome cafe, reasonably accessible to me, but after 6 pm the bus to connect to my place stops running! as I found out today. >___< ended up taking a Lyft home; the alternative was a bus to downtown, and then taking the E back up, and I had groceries. yay buses! :P
@mawr oooh, that's a really good idea, thank you! I'm on these 3x daily, but flipping the bottle is still an excellent visual reminder! *does the thing* :D
@mawr I'm 80% sure I hadn't, so I went ahead and took one. I don't think doubling up once is going to cause too much in the way of problems... other than possible upset stomach issues. :P
@starkatt thank you! it is by... um. a person whose handle I cannot remember, annoyingly. but thanks! XD
@literorrery @Azure yeeees thiiiiiis. btw this also applies to those struggling with mental health issues, and I *have* applied it to myself in my life experiences, and I *do* expect others I interact with to at least *try* to self-police this, and if they can't it's my choice and my right to opt not to interact with them as much/closely.
@zebratron2084 I'm looking forward to seeing this character develop! :D
gender lava
@chalcedony@octodon.social @KawaSeadrake yikes, gotcha. I haven't played Minecraft, but I get the metaphor now. XD I'm... not-cis, but in a way that makes playing with my own gender difficult at best, if that makes sense, so mostly I've just been doing my damndest to repress the whole mess and find other stuf to do, y'know? :P
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pronouns: they/them
location: Seattle
phenotype: dracosaur
alignment: chaotic well-intentioned
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aka Sprackraptor, Rasha, elynne, Yahvahzensil, & etc.
40-something ace/aro
an identity under construction in a badly-fitting human suit.
~follows welcome; followbacks not guaranteed~