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@rotatingskull Sadly, I know. And yet, the ways in which we could get the voting system changed to allow third parties -- STV, RCV, et cetera -- would have to pass through the major parties to get it. I vote third-party not because they'll ever win but to force the Dems to negotiate, because they've ignored their progressive wing for forty years. This is also a reason why I'm a secessionist.

(( search for "world's worst board game". ))

@caraellison Object permanence is hard, yo. I forget what I look like on days when I take my face off.

@smallesttiger @angrboda This sounds like a good idea. I support it.

@smallesttiger @angrboda I hear you. This is legit hard.

The best I can offer is that you're allowed to take care of yourself. If that means not taking care of someone else for a day, an hour, even a minute, that's okay. If they can't forgive you for making sure that you're in a position to _keep_ being there for them, the relationship isn't healthy and something needs to change.

I hope you can find the peace and strength to be there for yourself as passionately as you are for others.

@angrboda @smallesttiger It isn't easy, and there is no "always true" answer I can offer, either. Every case is going to be unique and depend on where you are on your emotional recovery with everything else in your life and what other options that person has.

Just, please, try to remember that no situation is so bad that you are their only option for help, and also that you too are deserving of help when you need it.

@irisjaycomics Paul Hollywood's not saved and he knows it. He relishes his downfall and intends to bring as many people with him as he can. Look at the way that man kneads dough. Whoever he touches is going to die happy and sin-stained.

Mary Berry is incorruptible; she could put a live child in a king cake and have a cracking good laugh and how scrumptious it all tastes.

@angrboda @smallesttiger You can be gentle. You can be patient. You can offer other resources. You can say "I'll take a note and get back to you later about this, but you're going to have to deal with it for now." You can offer to call 911 or another friend. You can tell people you'll find them other help, but you don't always have to be the one taking on their pain for them. And if they turn down that offer of secondary assistance... that's on them. You've discharged your duty.

@smallesttiger @angrboda I know it's hard. For me, it feels like failure, every time, because it says "I have limits." It's a declaration that I have boundaries that I'm not willing r possibly even unable to cross, and that I'm being asked to cross them. And I hear you. Great Work knows that hurts to admit, because even saying it can hurt people.

But not saying it will hurt them more, because it sets you both up to fail when they ask you for something and you literally _can't_.

@angrboda @smallesttiger Caregiver reserves are finite, too. And often they're assumed to be infinite just because they're deeper than the people who're depending on us. Managing that is __hard__. And sometimes the shame of not knowing how to say "I can't help you right now; I have to take care of me for a while" can drive me to burn spoons I haven't got. I've done a lot of damage to myself that way over the years, from which I'm only just now starting to recover.

@Sparrow If it's abandoned at the end of lunch and it's still sealed, I would say it's fair game. If the owner's still hovering around it, I wouldn't take it, but if there's clearly nobody around who's going to eat it and it's obviously trash otherwise, there's no point in it going to waste.

@smallesttiger I hear you. I've been going through rounds of this lately. There's more pain in the world than I can soothe on my own, more than any of us can manage by ourselves. One of the hardest lessons I've ever had to learn is "put your own oxygen mask on first." It flat-out sucks, but it's there because if you can't take care of yourself, taking care of others burns resources you don't have and can't easily get back. Please, be well, hug my sis, and take care of yourself.

@ElectricKeet Oh, bugi. *nuzzles, offers bag of candy hearts* I hope that one didn't give you indigestion, too.

@mawr I've sent off the edits to CLAW #1, for which I've been accepted. I'm still waiting on tenterhooks to hear back on whether Familiar Flesh got accepted into Fantastic Beasts, but even if it didn't, I think it's good enough to put up for sale. And I'm running out of ways in which I can continue to be roadblocked on releasing my major project for the last five months at work! =n.n=

@MeimuHakurei@mastodon.social And occasionally none of the ones in the book fit your character concept, so you back on it with the GM's help until you've got something that works for you as best as possible in the setting, but probably will get you flak at tournaments.

@aldersprig@tootplanet.space Dewey Decimal 725: "Public Structures."

The Post-Oil Reconstuction.

@Fuego Sounds like a good move. Bots make me itchy.

I could order doughnuts and put my creme pat into them. Nobody would have to know I didn't do all the work myself.

I can't just eat the rest of the creme pat with a spoon.

Halp.