Family Transphobia [1/3]
I found out from my little sister yesterday that my sister in Minneapolis is getting married in a 2 months... and I'm not invited.
The reason appears to be her son (my nephew), who, upon hearing about my transition 12 years ago, told her that he never wanted to see or speak to me again. She asked that I respect his wishes and is now choosing not to invite me as a result of them.
Family Transphobia [2/3]
She hasn't told me this herself yet. I took the bull by the horns and reached out directly. I have a call scheduled with her tonight.
In that call, I intend to point out that she is either a coward for not confronting her son's bigotry, or is herself a bigot and too "polite" to be honest about it.
I expected more from her. She's a lesbian; the only out gay person on my side of the family. She fought for me when I was younger, but she clearly never respected me.
Daily Tarot
While shuffling my deck, two cards fell out.
First: The Magician, again.
I am in control of my will. I can direct my energy to affect positive change.
Second: The V of Wands.
I cannot imagine a more apt card for the situation at hand.
I think the cards are firmly encouraging me to take a firm stand here. If there were any question about whether or not The Golden Thread deck and I were getting along well... this evidence should make that clear. XD
Family Transphobia [3/3]
@mawr Good luck and hopefully it shakes her world.
@IrisKalmia Here's to hoping. <3
Family Transphobia [3/3]
@mawr Very many hug and support of you. You deserve to exist.
You. Are. Valid. And i'm sorry that others do not see you not as such. *squeezes tight*
@neonNeptunian Thank you, dear. ♥️
Family Transphobia [3/3]
@mawr all the love and luck and respect
Family Transphobia [3/3]
@mawr All the luck in the world, mawr. *hug*
@zebratron2084 Thank you, hon. <3 *hugs tight*
Family Transphobia [3/3]
@mawr *hugs tight* good luck Mawr!
@KoBunny Thank you, fren!! ♥️
@KoBunny *also hugs back tightly!*
@mawr you are a good Mawr, and it takes a lot to stand up to hate like you're going to do. I'm really proud of you! ❤️
@KoBunny Thank you, hon ;o; ♥️
Family Transphobia [3/3]
@mawr I wish you both luck and patience with this diplomacy. <3
@emanate Thank you, hon. ♥️
Family Transphobia [3/3]
@mawr I've got your back and I love you, honey. You can do this!
Family Transphobia [3/3]
@kelseyhusky Thank you, puppy ;o; ♥️
Family Transphobia [3/3]
@mawr Good luck mawr and remember.. you are generally pretty awesome.
@wobblewuffess Thank you, hon. *squeezes*
@zx3 Thanks, hon. It's frustrating to admit that I'm used to this; it doesn't really hurt anymore, I'm just tired of silently accepting it, y'know?
Might as well firmly draw the line in the sand so they know they're crossing it when they do.
Family Transphobia [3/3]
@mawr Fight the good fight, mawr, and know that we're here and we've got your back. This is a terrible situation and you have my sympathies that it got this far.
@literorrery Thank you, hon. ♥️ It's deeply appreciated. ^^
Family Transphobia [3/3]
@mawr much luck, much empathy, and long-distance grrrring at your sister. :|
Family Transphobia [3/3]
@mawr Wishing you so much luck!
Family Transphobia [3/3]
I realized that I've never had a relationship with her that wasn't carefully guarded and exclusively on her terms. I would only be allowed to have a relationship with her so long as it didn't make the people around her uncomfortable.
Fuck. That.
I'm not going to take these insults quietly and just fade out of her life at the cost of my happiness just so she doesn't have to face the guilt of being a bigot.
That ends tonight.
Wish me luck.